One of my favorite topics to discuss is divorce. Not that I have been through this terrible experience, or wish this on anyone, but I do love the irony of it. People get married and declare their love for one another by spending a lot of money on just one day of their lives. Within 5-10 years, the marriage that was once so exciting becomes dull and burdensome, leading to a lot of paperwork, expensive lawyers, and hurt for the children.
I was given an article by a friend and enjoyed reading it. I later checked to see how my fellow Christians are doing in the world of marriage and the numbers surprised me a bit. While Christians aren't up at the 50% number, the number of divorced individuals in the church is around 30%, give or take. I love the fact that the atheists and agnostics have the lowest number in comparison with all Christian religions. This number can be somewhat misleading, but it still makes you wonder and think what we, as believers, are doing wrong, and what they, the 'heathens,' are doing right.
Author Donald Hughes states that 90% of divorces among born-again couples occur after they have been "saved." This proves that just because two Christians get married, it doesn't mean that divorce is out of the question.
I guess these statistics make me feel good, at least for the moment. They show me that I'm not missing out on that much. Once you look beyond the sex, I'm thinking marriage is work, hard work. There are great marriages out there, for sure. I'm always happy when I meet an elderly couple who has made it. But the reminder of divorce slaps me in the back of the head every time I question whether or not I need to get paired off now.
Why rush if it's going to end in 5 years behind a trail of tears, heartache, and lost time? I like taking care of me, myself, and I. If the right girl came, I'd welcome her. I'd think, That's great. But marriage, for me, will be a life time sentence. No take backs or do overs.
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